Maybe Heteros know what they're talking about....

So typically Thursday nights me and Double D (Daniel DeMarco), come up to the pub and have a few drinks and talk about the experiences in life, sex, and many other aspects that we can share together, although we are somewhat different from each other as much as I like to say that we are alike. Well for starters we begun this little ritual when we started to working on our college newspaper this academic quarter. This being a new ritual, it is nice to have away time from the stresses of the newsroom. In any case Double D being straight as I mentioned before in my previous post and I am gay also as I have mentioned before. 

In any case we started this conversation in why straight guys don't like to have sex with every girl that they see? Now to my assumption I would have thought that straight guys would have this crazy insatiable sex drive, but that wasn't the case. 

From what Double D said, most straight guys that are actually trying to have something with someone are typically not going to have sex with any girl they find in a bar. 

Ok, so on some level I guess that is understandable. But I'm sure that if I found some guy that I could talk to in bar and he was handsome and the conversation was good, then why wouldn't I want to go home with him? But that could always play into the fact that I'm kinda slutty, but hey, it would be nice. 

So Double D continues and to be perfectly honest I couldn't understand how he would have only been with the number of people that you could count on one hand, and if I actually counted I think I might need two people to count, and I'm sure that I would have to used their toes. 

He continued with his anecdotes of how his friends would tell him about the girls that would talk to him at bars and would leave not knowing that they were hitting on him at all. Now to me this sounds like an exaggeration, but knowing him and all of his honesty I wouldn't doubt that he was telling me the truth. 

So of course I had to tell him to come to a gay bar with me and we would find someone that would just tell him that they wanted to have sex with him. Although that wasn't something that excited him at all, even though he laughed. 

Again fascinated by the Heterosexuals once more. 

But he concluded with the fact that if he would be able to have sex with anyone that he wanted that, he wouldn't do it very much. Because having the intellectual conversation would be something that he wanted more than anything else. And to the people that actually wanted something from him would understand that having sex would not be something that would mean much in their relationship but rather having conversations that are worth having is what matters the most. 

And by this time I'm just sitting there thinking, "What the FUCK is wrong with you?" 

Of course of my better judgement I don't say anything, but I did also think of me and my boyfriend and all of the conversations that we have had as couple and from what Double D said, in all of its glorious "I told ya so's," that son of a bitch was right. Every conversation that was worth meaning i had with my boyfriend never led to sex or was never after sex, but was us sitting at the dinner table, which was his living room coffee table, and talking about things that actually mattered to us and to the world. 

sometimes you gotta give those Heteros credit.

Typically we talked about sex and our experiences that we are able to share with that, but almost undeniably when you talk about someone and their sexuality you must talk about their spiritual beliefs and how they reflect on them as a person. In which we saved for a later conversation but still is worth mentioning within this article. 

Double D and I share some common spiritual beliefs despite the details of the beliefs, it all just came down to us both not believing in God. Which most of the time we get into further discussions about how our families would have raised us or how we would view the people of the world and what not. But this conversation it really was a reflection on how people that have a spiritual belief in something has a tendency to have a negative view of you if you do not believe in the same thing as you do. 

Now mind you I know that this gets a little off of topic from the sex, but we allow the conversation to go where ever and its always something to listen to. 

But as the beer keeps coming and the conversation starts going all over the place we decide to make our way back to the newsroom to finish the work that we need to, although today its just me at the pub finishing my last beer and going to make my way outside for a smoke. 

I know I haven't written in a while but I'm happy to write this one. 

Would love to have your comments 

Always
Shane Burrell