Divorce is a good thing.

By Daniel DeMarco |Co-Writer|

Divorce is a good thing.

Now I know that this statement will be met with plenty of immediate reactions of shock or disagreement, but I will submit to you that you are looking at it the wrong way.

What is the cause of a divorce? Well obviously the answer is a bad marriage leads to divorce.

The key word there is “bad.”

Our society looks at marriage as a great event and worth for much celebration, so when a marriage turns ugly of course it isn’t a good outcome.

If a marriage does indeed turn ugly though, why would it ever be the preferred process that the two people should have to suffer with each other?

Often time people will argue something like: “Well people shouldn’t give up so easily, they can make the marriage work out” or something along those same lines.

Keep in mind that divorces are very different than just breaking up a relationship.

A divorce is a legal process. And because it is a legal process rather than just a social process, there is money involved.

The average divorce nowadays will cost an individual around $15,000-20,000, not to mention the possible consequences of splitting property and even splitting or losing custody of kids. It is obviously a very different situation than meeting up with your partner and breaking up with them.

With this in mind, if divorce becomes a possible solution to a bad marriage, there must be some very good reasons to back it up.

Being in a toxic relationship is not a healthy benefit to any individual, and just because two people are legally married does not make the ill effects any lesser.

For these reasons, divorce is not something to be sad about or to offer pity and condolences to others for having experienced.

Also consider this: Have you ever heard of a good marriage coming to an end by divorce? Please respond if you have, I beg you, but I don’t expect that anyone has ever heard of this happening.

Good marriages don’t experience divorce, healthy marriages don’t have to deal with it. If they did, that would be the true tragedy, that would be a reason to be against divorce. But that never happens.

So at this point, I will submit to you that you should support friends or family that have to experience divorce. Don’t tell them you are sorry or that it is a shame that things worked out this way, they’re the ones going through it and I’m sure they feel bad enough.

Instead why not offer some support and comfort to the fact that they are ending something which was detrimental to their well-being? Why not celebrate that they have the option to leave the toxic relationship and to better themselves?

Divorce is a good thing. It is a chance for a new start.